What is emotional abuse?

Emotional abuse is a form of psychological manipulation used to control, belittle, or intimidate someone, often leaving lasting harm to a survivor’s mental health and wellbeing.

Emotional abuse may include:

• Constant criticism or humiliation
• Blaming you for everything that goes wrong
• Dismissing your feelings or opinions
• Name-calling or insulting you
• Giving you the silent treatment
• Controlling who you see or where you go
• Making you feel guilty for asserting yourself
• Gaslighting

Unlike physical abuse, emotional abuse can be harder to identify, but its impact is just as serious. It can wear down a survivor’s confidence, self-worth, and sense of security over time.

Emotional abuse often starts subtly and escalates gradually. Survivors may not realise what’s happening until they feel constantly anxious, confused, or worthless. The abuser may present a different face to the outside world, making it even harder for survivors to reach out for support.

Emotional abuse can happen in any relationship including romantic, familial, or professional. It is never your fault, and it is never okay.

If you think you or someone you know may be experiencing emotional abuse, you don’t have to go through it alone. Help and support are available.

Solace provides expert help for women and children affected by domestic abuse in London, including counselling, advocacy, and safe housing.